Darren Mack Was A Perfectly Normal Abuser

So they finally captured and arrested Darren Mack, who may have actually attempted to arrange an TV interview with Greta Van Sustern before turning himself in or as a condition of his surrender. If this is true, it provides further proof of how unrepentant, calculated, and fucked up the perpetrator is. Even after his arrest, he cannot stop trying to control every aspect of the situation.

There are two issues that get the minx ready to go all Cheney on people–government enforced pregnancy and domestic violence. And there is nothing that makes me want to strangle someone more than having to hear all the testimonials and comments about how the perpetrator “was so normal.” Its complete and utter bullshit and the media, mainstream and otherwise, who spend all their time reporting on the perpetrator like its snuff porn instead of on the negative repercussions of the crime and its victims, should all be forced to take a course in victimology and be locked up at the crime scene for 24 hours. And they should definitely have to read Covering Domestic Violence: A Guide for Journalists and Other Media Professionals published by the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence. This kind of reporting continues the trauma and misery of the living victims and victimizes Charla Mack over and over again. Its time to educate yourselves on the matter you pack of slavering idiots.

Darren Mack was not normal. Nobody who committs such a crime is normal. As we now know, Charla Mack told friends that her husband was going to try and kill her. Almost all perpetrators of intimate partner violence and homicide demonstrate clear patterns of control and abusive behavior that escalate until the homicide is committee just like in other forms of domestic abuse. Mack seems to have followed this pattern to a T, and please keep in mind that all abuse is not physical. His response to the divorce, hiding his assets, his refusal to pay most of the court ordered payments and support, his abusive litigation tactics, and his apparently bogus bankruptcy claim all point to a man obsessed with the control of his family. Unfortunatley, the murder of Charla Mack cannot be considered a suprise.

In almost every interview, news story, or article, past employees, acquaintences, and consultants remark on the normalness of Darren Mack, who not only stabbed his ex-wife to death, but also planned and executed the shooting of a family court judge. A former employee of the perpetrator (from 10 years ago!) was actually given air time on the Rita Cosby show to talk about how he still sends the perpetrator holiday cards and how he was a “really, really nice guy.” Are you fucking kidding me?

Futhermore, he surrounded himself with Father’s Rights nutcases like Dean Tong and William Wegener, whose ilk has done nothing but make excuses for his crime. This is what Tong, who specializes in helping fathers accused of abusing their spouses and/or children beat the rap so to speak, said about Mack on June 13th on CNN:

Well, she had made allegations of domestic violence, that he had hit her. I had him tested by one of my psychologists, and the results of those findings and conclusions were that he had no propensity to be the monster that she was pinging him to be. I met the man last July in a Las Vegas hotel. We had breakfast together, and he certainly didn`t appear to me to be a risk to his child or his wife. So I mean, this is totally beyond surreal for me.

And on the Rita Cosby show (he gets around doesn’t he?):

You—you worked with him on this consulting issue. Did you see anything in there in his behavior that he had any violent tendencies? I understand there were even some tests done.


I met the man last July. He seemed like a fine, upstanding citizen. We shook hands. We had breakfast together. We talked on the phone many times before I even came out to Vegas to see him, or vice-versa.

COSBY: And what about these tests? Tell us about these tests.

TONG: Yes.

He was subjected by my expert to domestic violence and physical child abuse propensity tests. And he passed the same with flying colors. So, there was nothing there to give us any forewarning he was a ticking time bomb ready to explode.

Some tests asshole.

You can read some comments made by the not so lunatic fringe of the father’s rights groups and get a first hand glimpse of the kind of behavior they condone.

Here are some more facts about intimate partner homicide:

* On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner.16
* Women are much more likely than men to be killed by an intimate partner. In 2000, intimate partner homicides accounted for 33.5 percent of the murders of women and less than four percent of the murders of men.17
* Pregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause18 , and evidence exists that a significant proportion of all female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners.19
* Research suggests that injury related deaths, including homicide and suicide, account for approximately one-third of all maternal mortality cases, while medical reasons make up the rest. But, homicide is the leading cause of death overall for pregnant women, followed by cancer, acute and chronic respiratory conditions, motor vehicle collisions and drug overdose, peripartum and postpartum cardiomyopthy, and suicide.20

Statistics on intimate partner homicide from the Bureau of Justice Statistics for 1993-2001.

As the Mack case proves, family violence does not always remain in the family. We are obligated as a society that says it cares about families to educate ourselves about domestic abuse and how to stop it. Intimate partner homocide is one of the most preventable crimes out there. And this is really the kind of information the media should have been discussing—not the hysterical tripe they’ve served up with conspiratorial glee.

Photo of Charla Mack: KLASTV.com

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[...] Read the Op-Ed by Trish Wilson who runs The Countess blog, and who is no stranger to the upside down world of father’s rights groups and the case of Darren Mack. To emphasize once again the poor job the media is doing on this story, please read my past post on the subject and the op-ed below. Intimate partner violence and the role father’s rights groups played in the Mack case are an essential part of the story. The media missed a real opportunity to inform and educate the public on these two issues. [...]

[...] If you doubt Mack’s involvement with Father’s Rights groups, look no further than his consulations with Dean Tong, noted advisor to men trying to beat child abuse charges among other things. Want more proof? Try Googling father’s rights and start reading the forums and you’ll see what kind of men we’re talking about. Want more information? Read this post from Pandagon and the comments which are excellent. [...]

[...] I’ve written about intimate partner violence before. Intimate partner violence is committed by both men and women, but women commit intimate partner violence with MUCH less frequency than men and the violence committed by women tends to be much less serious overall. If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know I’ve discussed this before in the context of the Darren Mack case. But here’s where I get really angry–I cannot understand how Americans continue being surprised by intimate partner violence, and particularly, intimate partner violence directed against women and children. It happens all the time, and in most cases, there are plenty of warning signs. Charla Mack warned those around her that her husband was going to try and kill her. The Virginia Tech student, Cho Seung Hui, began focusing his rage on women years before murdering dozens of fellow students and their teachers last April. And in the case of Chris Benoit’s murder of his wife and son, his wife filed a restraining order against her husband and filed for divorce alleging “cruel treatment” before dropping the complaint and the divorce. Oh, but how could we possibly have guessed what they might become violent? [...]


Well isn’t it about time someone speaks the truth about this?! Thank you, Minx.

I’ve been so sickened with all the people, even coworkers, saying “oh, he just snapped.” We well know that is not the case. And, what I really want to know is when did “snapping” become an excuse? Take some responsibility for you actions, people!

Spot on. That’s exactly the way it is.

How you would know if the media are doing a good job or not as you clearly expect you views to be the only ones heard and nobody elses.

If you had actually bothered to read each item I linked to, you wouldnt ask me such a question….tired of this. You’re obviously convinced of your point of view and I am convinced of mine (which just happens to be backed up by empirical evidence). End of commenting on this subject. Its best left to the echo chambers of your forums.

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